Wanting a Baby To Love
I’m writing today to gently remind myself and other women that it’s healthy to want a baby. Sometimes I feel so alone in my desires. There are times when I bravely speak to others around me about the dreams that I carry, only to be told that I should be focusing on a career or other things as ‘an independent woman in the 21st century’. I’ve lost count as to the amount of times when a friend or family member has told me that ‘times have changed’. It’s as though I’m expected to adapt my whole self in order to align with the trends and expectations of others in the modern world. There’s nothing wrong or lazy about longing to be a homemaker wife and mum. My soul simply desires to center my life around love, beauty and family, rather than performance, financial goals and targets.
I want a home, I want a family. I want to spend all of my days homemaking beautifully whilst my husband takes care of us devotedly. There are people who tell me that it’s impossible or no longer feasible to have in 2026, but I’ve seen that traditional women like me are living the lives that we dream of. I’m not referring to the housewives who lounge around all day in a glamorous home whilst chefs and cleaners attend to them all day. I’m referring to the homemaker wives and mums who dedicate their time to looking after their husbands, children and home. There are lovely women out there whose lives are a testimony that God answers prayer. Being a homemaker wife and mum isn’t a silly dream. It’s real, and it carries eternal value.
If you need any more gentle encouragement on dreaming for marriage and motherhood, you can also read my books, ‘Everlasting Love’ and ‘Housewife Dreams’. Both books are available to buy on amazon to uplift your heart.
With love, Devona Fayana
Called To Be a Wife
In the early blossoming spring of this year, my heart finally found rest upon comprehending that my desire to be a wife is not something to despise or be ashamed of. Instead, I have embraced it lovingly as a beautiful calling from God. My dreams of marriage and motherhood aren’t held tightly by my soul out of selfishness or worldly pressures. I desire ardently to be a woman whose soul is devoted to serving my husband and children. When I was younger in my late teens to early twenties, my focus was strictly fixed upon the loveliness of a man treating me like a princess. I had never thought about what it meant to be a caring, considerate and loving wife who blesses my husband. His helper, his rib, joined beautifully unto him by God. I was so focused on chasing after a happily ever after, the flowers, the vacations, the ring, the wedding. But as I have grown older and journeyed throughout womanhood, my heart burns to pour out my love and devotion into someone. A husband, a baby. A home, a family.
Every day of my life, I dream of it deeply. It’s unshifting, unmoving. There have been plenty of moments when I have asked God to remove this desire away from me. Although deep in my heart, I feel that I am called to this.
If you’re a woman like me, dreaming of a soft and beautiful marriage, I hope that your heart knows that God is proud of you greatly. Truly, how beautiful must it be to embrace the glory of love that you’re desiring to serve your husband and kids rather than focusing solely on what benefits you will get out of marrying. I think true love is when each spouse is devoted to taking care of one another, both husband and wife, serving, adoring and respecting one another within serene harmony. That’s the kind of wife that I aspire to be.
If you need any more gentle encouragement, you can also read my books, ‘Everlasting Love’ and ‘Housewife Dreams’. Both books are available to buy on amazon to uplift your heart.
With love, Devona Fayana
Dreaming of Motherhood
I have dreamt about the beauty of being a mum for as long as I can remember. As a girl, I would play with my baby dolls, naming them and dressing them up beautifully upon pretending to be a loving parent. There was an adorable little toy kitchen that I adored playing with, putting on my pretty flowery apron whilst I had fun in pretending to cook up a delicious dinner for my family. These are the memories that I cherish deeply. In my mind, I still remember that toy kitchen as if it were yesterday. My hopes and dreams of being a beautiful homemaker mother were passionately engraved in my heart since the beginning of time. I feel it within my spirit, that I was always meant to be a mum. Though now in my adult years, my journey of dreaming for the things I love has not always felt the same. There have been ups and downs, like many women like me who are facing the heartache of hope deferred. In our teenage years, we’d always say we’d be married with children by the age of twenty five, but once my mid twenties hit, all hope and excitement for my life totally escaped me.
It wasn’t until I had learned to truly let go of putting pressure on myself, departing from worrying about timelines and comparison with others, is when I truly learned to find rest within the beauty of timing. Yes, my heart still aches day by day, but in the midst of such pain I am learning to embrace gratitude and beauty for where God has me in the present moment. What helps me to cope is continuing to dream of motherhood, embracing the splendor of looking forward to holding my baby one day, kissing their cheeks, watching them take their first steps. Dreaming of motherhood, dreaming of my children.
If your story is similar to mine in any way, I hope I can encourage you to keep dreaming of being a mum too. For though your baby may not be here yet, they are already within the Lord’s hands. All will bloom together beautifully when the time is right. In the meantime, stay lovely and beautiful and close to God. If you need any more gentle encouragement, you can also read my books, ‘Everlasting Love’ and ‘Housewife Dreams’. Both books are available to buy on amazon to uplift. your heart.
With love, Devona Fayana