Wanting a Baby To Love

I’m writing today to gently remind myself and other women that it’s healthy to want a baby. Sometimes I feel so alone in my desires. There are times when I bravely speak to others around me about the dreams that I carry, only to be told that I should be focusing on a career or other things as ‘an independent woman in the 21st century’. I’ve lost count as to the amount of times when a friend or family member has told me that ‘times have changed’. It’s as though I’m expected to adapt my whole self in order to align with the trends and expectations of others in the modern world. There’s nothing wrong or lazy about longing to be a homemaker wife and mum. My soul simply desires to center my life around love, beauty and family, rather than performance, financial goals and targets.

I want a home, I want a family. I want to spend all of my days homemaking beautifully whilst my husband takes care of us devotedly. There are people who tell me that it’s impossible or no longer feasible to have in 2026, but I’ve seen that traditional women like me are living the lives that we dream of. I’m not referring to the housewives who lounge around all day in a glamorous home whilst chefs and cleaners attend to them all day. I’m referring to the homemaker wives and mums who dedicate their time to looking after their husbands, children and home. There are lovely women out there whose lives are a testimony that God answers prayer. Being a homemaker wife and mum isn’t a silly dream. It’s real, and it carries eternal value.

If you need any more gentle encouragement on dreaming for marriage and motherhood, you can also read my books, ‘Everlasting Love’ and ‘Housewife Dreams’. Both books are available to buy on amazon to uplift your heart.

With love, Devona Fayana