Why I Desire To Get Married
There are many people that have often asked me why I desire to get married. There have been many assumptions that because I am young, I should rather be more focused on pursuing a career or travelling the world. Initially, I agreed. Because at the time I had not yet gone through the journey of learning the significance of a godly marriage. But the more I ignored my desire for marriage, the more uncomfortable I felt as I suppressed that desire. Through which, I begun to seek the Lord about it. And within that season of seeking Him, I realised that my desire to get married is a healthy, godly desire that I believe the Lord has planted within my heart.
The reason for writing this post is because I desire for others to understand some of the reasons why many women may deeply desire to be married. I have found that oftentimes, our desire to be married as single women can be overlooked. Through which, I hope this post can give some readers a bit more understanding from my perspective. And I hope that this encourages single women to continue trusting in the Lord, for their desires are healthy and godly.
What I Love About Marriage
Ever since I was a teenager, I had always admired the idea of the beautiful union of marriage. The devotion, the companionship, the intimacy and romance. Growing together and doing life together. After receiving salvation through Christ, I can’t think of anything else to be so beautiful to experience. For after your relationship with God, the relationship that you have with your husband is the most cherished and important relationships that you could ever have. The marriage union has been beautifully created by God Himself (Genesis 2). And when a couple enter into a covenant before the Lord, to selflessly devote themselves to one another until death, it is such a precious act and expression of love.
I have always dreamed of being married. To devote myself to the man I love, for the rest of our lives. And also, for the right man to be dedicated in loving me too. I admire the idea of supporting each other, serving one another and raising a family together. I admire the idea of being my husband’s helper (Genesis 2:18). To have a husband by my side to take care of me and show me love that reflects the love that Christ has for His Church.
A life companion is such a blessing that I could never overlook. I understand that there may be some called to a life of singleness, and others, into marriage. Both have such beautiful benefits. But I desire to journey through life with a man who is surrendered to Christ, as we love and serve one another until death for His glory.
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor.
For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls,
for he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm;
but how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him.
And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
“And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”” – Genesis 2:18
I desire to become a wife to a godly husband because the Lord Jesus Christ is glorified within the beautiful union of marriage.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.” – Ephesians 5:25
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.” – Ephesians 5:22
Marriage beautifully reflects the love between Christ and His Church. And although marriage may not always be easy, it helps a husband and wife to blossom spiritually as they walk in obedience to His Word. Marriage helps us to learn to become selfless, and consider others rather than just focusing on ourselves. And I think it is such a precious journey to be able to flourish in becoming more like Christ, with a devoted companion by your side.
The Challenges of Marriage
Though this post is about why I desire to get married, I also want to share that I’m not unaware of the reality that marriage can actually be quite challenging at times. And though I have not been able to experience marriage yet, I have learnt that throughout life, almost everything has it’s challenges. Whether you’re married or single. A stay at home mother, or a career woman. In friendships, in families. In jobs, and in businesses. I don’t think there are much things in life that are easy. Through which, I am still willing and desiring to grow in the Lord as I serve my future husband. For I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. – Philippians 4:13
The companionship between a husband and wife is precious. It is deeper than any other human relationship that you could experience. For two have become one.
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” – Genesis 2:24
By marrying, you are blessed with a life partner that will know you intimately, in every possible way. They will come to know you, grow in understanding of you, and learn how to love you in the way you need.
To spend life with someone, and creating memories with them is a treasure to cherish for the rest of your days. It is beautiful, it is joyful, it is bliss. And my heart deeply desires to experience such a wonderful experience.
I have always desired to be a mother, and have a family of my own. And as a Christian, that can only be obtained through marriage.As marriage is built upon Christ as the foundation, the family home is able to thrive in abundance.
“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.” – John 10:10
Throughout the bible we see that family is deeply valued. From the marriages, to the descendants. The family is very important to God, and it is a way that we are able to continue being fruitful by multiplying. Raising godly children, for His marvellous glory.
Thank you so much for reading, I hope that it blessed you xxx
ps. If you delighted in this post, I think that you would love 30 Ways To Be Your Husband’s Helper
If you are also a single christian woman who desires to get married, I also think my book would encourage your precious heart while you wait and trust in Him. Rosebuds: Blossoming In Your Single Season
Take care. Lots of love, Devona xxxx