How To Move On From A Breakup Gracefully
It’s never easy going through a breakup, sometime it can feel like a part of you has been ripped apart. But stay hopeful, everything happens for a reason. I know some of you may want to know how to get back with your ex, but I personally would advise you to think about the reason why the relationship didn’t work out and if it could have been worked out. Although it’s imperative for you to know that you deserve so much more in a relationship. You deserve to be joyful and be treated with love and care. Of course, not every relationship is always happy and rosy, but it’s so important to understand to know and learn to love what’s good for you, to also identify what’s toxic and what’s fruitful within a relationship.
Throughout this season of detachment from you ex, you will grow stronger mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Here are my tips and advice on how to move on from a breakup gracefully.
Avoid Contact With Your Ex
Many people are not going to like this one! I know some of us would like to ‘be friends’ with our exes and keep in touch, however I believe that in order to move on from something or someone, the best thing to do would be to cut off contact with them. How else could our feelings for them go when we are in contact with them? How else would we stop thinking about them so much if they are constantly before us? If you want to move on from a breakup, let go.
The best thing to do if you are serious about moving on is actually cutting off contact. You don’t necessarily need to block them, although you can do if you believe they are pestering you! But what I mean by cutting off contact is refraining from speaking to them, delete their number or unfollow them if you have to. You don’t want constant reminders of them by seeing their updates on social media! It can be largely distracting!
The issue with keeping them on social media is that now that you have broken up with them, you will have so much temptation to keep updated with what’s going on in their lives. Through which you’ll regularly be trying to keep track of their lives online. Nip it in the bud before it gets too much by cutting off contact with them asap.
Another issue is that I know that sometimes your ex partner doesn’t want to cut contact with you and is more than happy to continue talking. In my personal opinion, I believe this is also a hinderance to moving forward.. if you’re looking to be in a relationship again, you would need time to heal and move on without any soul ties attached to your ex partner.
Evaluate your situation and guard your heart. Think about what’s best for you and don’t be afraid to be open with your ex about your thoughts and the necessary actions you would like to take to move forward.
Remove All Gifts and Reminders of Your Ex
I’m sure with many relationships, throughout the time of being with that person you’ve received gifts and even little reminders of them. I think there is so much power within letting go of baggage, whether its physically or emotionally.
Make the decision to clear out every gift that your ex has given to you, especially if there are certain feelings and emotions that arise whenever you see it. It’s of course your choice to be able to decide what you’d rather keep or throw away, but keep a reminder in your head of what you believe is healthy for you to keep around.
Do Not Rush Into Another Relationship or Get a Rebound
When you want to move on from a breakup, at all costs, AVOID getting a rebound or rushing into another relationship so seriously and so quickly! This is an issue I see many people do a lot of the time when they come out of their relationship. There is nothing worse than getting into a relationship with a broken heart just to seek validation through someone else.
Take time for yourself aside to go through a season of healing, restoration and healing again. You want to be at the best position as possible when you meet your next partner.
Loneliness in singleness can easily tempt you to want to seek a partner to fill the void, especially after a relationship. However don’t fall for the trap! The reward is so much more sweeter when you wait well!
It’s amazing when someone enters into a new season of their life with a completely new look! Not only will you feel better, but you are embracing a new season of life! I can’t explain how uplifting it is when you emphasise a new transformation. What about you would you want to upgrade about yourself?
A new hairstyle? New wardrobe?
You could even treat yourself to a spa day or travelling away!
Use this season to maximise your singleness and start to love and care for yourself before you let someone new into your life.
Be Careful Who You Reach Out To
Only reach out to your very close friends and family members about how you feel. You only want to reach out to those who truly care about your life and well-being. I know that sometimes that some of us may feel so down and upset that we would like to talk to whoever we are with about our current situations, but to stay graceful in this season of moving on from a breakup. Don’t feel the need to tell facebook and instagram about your feelings about your ex boyfriend and what that you’re trying to move on from a breakup because they honestly couldn’t care less. You’d be actually surprised the amount of people who can gossip behind your back. Hold on tight to your loved ones, the closest friends to you and they will take care of you!
There is so much power in prayer. Through prayer you find healing, blossoming and growth. With Christ you can do all things, which includes moving on gracefully and levelling up in life.
Psalm 34:18 – “The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds.”
Through my toughest experience of a break up, I reached out to God. I have never looked back since! Every void and trace of brokenness that you ex may have left, God is able to heal and restore. He loves you and is even able to provide you with your future partner.
I wish you all the best for your future in your love life! Be joyful and embrace your season.