Single Ladies, It’s OK To Desire Marriage


Hello lovely.. do you ever come across those videos on youtube that tell you to ‘stop thinking about marriage and be content in your life and Jesus’?

There are so many  videos and commenters online that talk on the topic of marriage and make women who desire marriage feel ashamed about it by calling it ‘not being content in Christ’.. I know people have different views but I truly think it’s ok to be single and desire marriage as long as you don’t make it an idol!



I find it dearly sad that we as single women have to pretend and act on a situation that doesn’t truly represent our true feelings, as though we are hiding behind a mask. Humans can’t hide the fact that we need love and unity to be apart of our lives.

Genesis 2:18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

Ecclesiastes 4:9-11 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor. If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls

and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.

But how can one keep warm alone?


There are many types of relationships.. we have

  • friendships
  • family
  • romantic relationships

As much as it is nice to have friends and family.. I personally believe due to different lifestyles and schedules, we can’t always keep in close contact and meet ups all the time with our family and friends. Especially if they’re married with children. That’s why in my single season I truly try to maximise it as much as possible and spend as much time with God as I can now. Even when you do get a partner, it’s only the Lord that will be by your side 24/7, even past beyond death. God is the closest person to you and always will be. So especially in times of loneliness/when friends and family aren’t around I cling close to the Lord, as always. Even in a relationship, this doesn’t have to change. Your spouse will even draw you closer to God when it is ordained by Him! Even better!

As well as it’s ok to desire a relationship, I also understand some people may want to remain single too. Read more about remaining single in 1 Corinthians 7. But it’s unnecessary to make women feel ashamed or question her contentment in Christ.


I think it all comes to seeking close relationship with God always, trusting Him and knowing it is ok to have the desire within you. It is most likely God Himself who placed the desire there, to make you aware of the knowing within you to have a life partner.

Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for wanting to experience a deep level of love, continue to do what God is calling you to do and eventually He will lead you in the right direction!


Thank you so much for reading,


Keep on blooming beautifully,

Devona Fayana


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