The 10 Reasons Why Some Women Stay Single

Many ladies who stay single for a long time often wonder why. There can be so many reasons why we haven’t found partner yet. Here are a few points that I’ve listed that you may be able to relate to in some way. I hope this helps and encourages you.

The poem in the photo above is from one of my favourite books, ‘Lullabies by Lang Leav’. It’s an absolutely stunning piece of art.

1. You’re picky

It’s fine to have an idea of the characteristics and qualities of someone you want in mind butttttt if the man that you meet is a wonderful guy who is nice and attractive, are you really going to turn him down because he isn’t 6ft? Or because he doesn’t earn x amount on his salary?

Don’t turn down nice, genuine guys who you may be attracted to just because they don’t tick every single box that you’ve envisioned. Be open to new people, new experiences, new things in general. You may be surprised.

2. You’re still heartbroken or have a soul tie

You may not have found a partner yet because you’re still attached to an ex boyfriend spiritually and emotionally. Allow God and time to heal every part of damage caused from the past relationship in order for you to be ready and positioned for a new one.

3. There is a season for everything

Ecclesiastes 3 says there are times and seasons for everything. Maybe this is your season now to be single, fruitfully. Enjoying your time, doing the most you can to prosper and walk fully in purpose and divine destiny. Use the most of this season and build up your career and your relationship with God before you move on to a romantic relationship.

4. You’re not content

Alot of people tend to find love when they aren’t searching for it. Because they’re so caught up in living purposefully, enjoying their lives and walking in the fullness of God’s joy. Try to be content in this season you’re in and start rejoicing in your singleness.

5. You don’t leave your house

You don’t position yourself to be seen.. you’re always at home or at work. Which can be harder for you to be seen by the man that God has for you. I’m not saying you have to purposefully go out in public more just for you to meet your future partner but start enjoying life more and doing new things when you can. Experiencing the world, your city, different places. Your future husband isn’t going to come knocking on your door most likely! Be open to new places and experiences. You never know who you may meet.

6. You’re in need of cleansing

You may or may not need to have a spiritual cleanse and purification of heart. Many of us have issues within ourselves that we haven’t acknowledged or dealt with. Such as selfishness, too much anger, judgemental etc. And in a relationship this could be toxic to the other person, so think about whether you have anything to work on within you before you enter your next relationship

7. You don’t make an effort with your appearance

I’m not saying you have to look like a doll or pretend to be someone you’re not to get a boyfriend but.. take care of yourself. Groom your hair, get facials done.. put on a lip gloss or even blusher to add radiance to your face. Get a new wardrobe of clothes to boost your confidence and embrace the new you! Have fun with it! Whatever is comfortable for you.

8. You have lack of confidence

If you don’t love yourself, who else will? People can often read whether you’re confident or not. And also, God may want you to fall in love with Him and yourself first. Before you rely on the security of a relationship too much.

9. You’ve idolised men

You think having a man in your life will solve all your problems and you’ll be happy and secure forever. You may think you won’t be lonely anymore and that someone will finally love you. 


Having a partner is great but every human on earth will always disappoint us. We’re not God. Every human on earth is only here temporarily too. Relationships and material things slip away, but God doesn’t.

10. You don’t know God

You may be single because you don’t know God. And He wants you to know and love Him first. For Him to be the man of your life before he brings your future husband to you.

He wants you to feel safe and secure with Him only. Loved greatly by His love and understand who he is in your life. So that when you meet the man you’re destined to be with, you won’t idolise him.

Fall in love with God first, before falling in love with another x

Songs of Solomon 8:4

Do not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.

Be patient, 

God’s got you 

devona fayana x


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